The first five Pre-marital flaws (Part one)

  Every intended spouse(s) are clearly coming out of one marriage from where they were produced, raised catered for; or been previously married into to be in another other which will also produce others. Who would later in the nearest future proceed into another marital or spousal relativity?.  By these, the world was enlivened to exist as an unbroken continuum. The first five Pre-marital flaws (Part one)The first five Pre-marital flaws (Part one)Pre-marital flaws are initially not entirely flaws but signs through which ones should have taken to some certain cautions. But it gradually later on in life becomes flaws when veils of deception had been wrung and shaken to expose what was hidden. Remember, love could be found anywhere but it does not always present itself as love. Therefore, nothing should be hidden from love whenever and wherever love is birthed.    

If these guiding signs were never yielded to. Whenever realities are espoused, these signs become flaws. Which they were initially never intended to be. Then, you’ll see clearly and know better and wish you had done things differently. 

Most of these signs were fully deposited within our five primary sense organs. Eyes; Nose; Ear; Skin and Tongue. 

i. Eyes: Gen 2:22-25 “ Adam hastily concluded on the woman presented and shown to him as he never considered consulting God the creator on what and how living with this new creature (the woman) would be. Because he had never seen one all his life.

He recognized the missing ribs but never bordered on why it should be in another body as a sensor through which he recognized what he needed. It was just like taking delivery of an entirely new product without the product’s manual. Although, a woman is never to be guided or operated as a product. 

Because all women are daughters of God; not humanly company-made products. 

Adam presumed since he understood to a certain level all the other living things in the garden. As he was made to name; and be lord over them. He hurriedly concluded that the last and latest living being presented to him should also be treated likewise. Except with a difference of always having her around him. 

He was not totally wrong, but he should’ve consulted with his maker concerning what happened while he was made to fall asleep but he didn’t. The signs to ask were already made available within his senses. But he never deemed it fit to ask for guidance. He presumed the already given rules should command all. Therefore, the unyielded signs became flaws. 

He eschew eschatology and the signs he should’ve observed and duly followed. While he was yet to understand. The external forces crept in after beating the commandment signs into submission. They become a flaw through which the presence of his maker he can no longer behold.

The presentation of the first woman by God to the first man was a sign of unity, the symbol of love, an epitome of oneness, and a renewed creation of forever harmony. But the man could not adequately key into these. Why?! He acted less; asked not and deplored less of his five senses not on signs that should lead him to continue in the wake of his maker. And these led to his ultimate marital flaws. 

It’s a marital flaw to judge him/her by what you could see and thereby totally appraised or rescind such to condemnation; without an expression of views from the other party. As he/she may be; or may not be the best you need, to attain the better you have always craved to be. 

Note: 75% of whatever destabilized a marriage are signs that has always been there even before the union. Failure to work on it to total tame would eventual pull the union apart.

Pst.  Folorunsho  Alayo

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EVERYBODY IS A FRIEND TO SOMEBODY

"
How I wish you could be that true, 

faithful friend on whose shoulder

 my loneliness burden could be 
bored. Because of everybody, everywhere, every time 

surely do need 

a friend

" 

Friendship could be one or all that would be needed for the most of all that is necessarily required in order to be seen or noted for remains and retained our sociability, the memories of the good, fair, bad and worse times we have ever spent together while such friendship lasted. 

Meanwhile; no once entwined friendship will ever remain broken forever as our time and tides will periodically and continuously bring whatever memories we have shared together within the periscopes of such friendship when and while it was still fresh and seemingly unending. 

Even if we leave ways far apart from one another; No once created friendship can ever be permanently separated. As far as friendship is concerned divorce is ineffective. We can lay claims to separations or divorce as loud and as long as we would want to but the truth of the matter is just a denial of a most truthful gospel. As the memories of such friendship will still once in a lifetime knock on the instinct of our lives, as long as we continue to exist. 

Though you would have loved some of such friendship to be gone forever on and for the yesteryears sake. But the memorabilia of time and season would just almost always bring back the ding dong of such friendship to the fore present time. At the core and point of views whereby you are gathering or lonely permitted to rename, remain, re-maim or reignite such a friendship. 

Forgetfulness might want to play a tse-tse fly belief on us but do not forget that in aviation theses an eagle flight is erudite and most superlative in comparison to an insect which is what a friendship is, in comparison to forgetfulness. The only ties of friendship which is/are easily forgotten could be those that are termed or deemed inconsequential as no serious friendship after been broken ever truly remained forever broken or forgotten. 

"Because even where there is no

physical edifice structure, rooms 
can still be modelled out"

There are rooms for friendship and more rooms to retained and call back those friends whom you have sent far away from you for a course that is simply not a just course. Our upbringing might have been etched on or to the echelon of those debilitating attitudes that do not allow friendship to thrive. You might be one of the sorts who does not see why one should tender that reserved ' I AM SORRY; MY FRIEND" apology. But why should you reserve it when you do not want your friendship to collapse?. Some of our friends sometimes are right about what and why they would say they can no longer be our friends. All the while; most of them (friends) are patient but impatiently waiting as in an akimbo for eavesdropping gesture. To hear you claim and re-unite that friendship whose cords our eager zeal of immaturity must not be permitted to shattered.   

Humans were never created to be made or live alone. The era of you doing all things all alone is gone and far spent. So, therefore; it is no more. Though you could still believe 'doing all things through Christ who strengthens you' (Philippians 4:19). Yes, It's good to believe, as there's definitely none like Him. He is our everything and I like you and love you the more you do.

But Christ is no longer in the physical and you are still 100% flesh and blood even if He (Christ) were to be in the physical. He would not mentor you to keep gathering or brooding enmity. He rightly said "  

And other sheep I have, which are not of this fold: them also I must bring, and they shall hear my voice; and there shall be one fold, and one shepherd.

John 10:16 (KJV)

Other keys sides of our existence. Friends are one of the most important motives or factors who could hasten our journey to the norm right destinations. And friendship through proper or improper alliance could be the reasons why we could or were not at the time we should be at the right time. But when and if most of this happened;  our friends shouldn't be all that should be blames.

"As no man has ever been 

disappointed as that who

 invested all his trust 

in a mortal" 

PSALM 118:8

Each and every one of us as human at a point or the other had made, adopt or drop one or the other friends for a reason which is best known to us but such reasons might surely not be the best of all the reasons that ever existed. 

Your mind, heart and memory are treasure island bore to refresh and enliven even as you grow on and back to where you came from; because all humans were actually given birth to in cares and love in order to live, grow and such is engendered towards a physical death. But the types and kinds of friends you made while alive can actually abound even after your departure from this sinful world.  

In friendly terms; You can't choose all your friends. There is some kind of friends whose friendliness is so casual but deep to the tune whereby, you would kind of frequently wondered and reminiscence on how, where, why and when did you meet or make such a friend. There are also friends you meet frequently but which are none of your many friends. You might be right when you called such an acquaintance.

An acquaintance could blossom into a full-blown of non-committa friendship only if the powers that drive our sense of reasonability attest to such. And there could be an attestation from within while the power of wants and desires eschew to such an encapsulation. As humans; we were known and also made to dangles between choices which has seen or led so many to an enclave of the wrong choice. Friendship inclusive.

Friendship, as it is, is not about who, you have known for the longest time but it is rather about those who were really be-friend either by you or them making the first advances in order for each to keep standing the more and as long as they are willing to stay or stand. Not setting a setback or pulling them down while they could still remain standing even if you have never been a friend to any or many of them.

David and Jonathan friendship in the Bible could be one of the sorts upon what our kind of desired friendship could be based. (I Samuel 18:3) But our Lord Jesus Christ shows more superlatively friendship than any that could be found or would be seen all over the world

John 15:13 (KJV)

Greater love hath no man than this, 

that a man lay down his 
life for his friends.

   The credence of life on and about friends and friendship is that; they (friends) are part of what and whom we are down here to achieve. Yes. It is true that some of them make us sick; (2 Samuel 19:22) it is also the obvious gospel truth that some of them help us get healing.  (Mark 2:2-3). Our parents are definitely not going to be the one giving birth to all we are going to be with it in life. Some of what we need in life is in the hands of friends. If God has given us everything, it might make our life un-interesting and less inviting. 

Why can't we once again be as friendly as a little kid?. Remember; to every little kid, everybody that comes their way is surely a friend. They mostly do not know one differently from the other until an adult probably their parents or guardian warned them against playing with these or that kind of friends. Within their little pure hearts, everybody surely does make a friend to somebody.

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

You can please send your prayer request or any 

questions to the contacts below; 

folorunshoalayo@yahoo.com. 
Tel: +234 8033646382, 
+234 8023956872 (WhatsApp) 

God loves cheerful givers: 
Bank acct: Alayo Lateef Folorunsho 
3013041255 (First Bank Nigeria Plc)

Grace and peace be with all brethren all 
over the world for your support, Amen

Remember JESUS CHRIST 

was never sent to condemn 

but to save You.

John 3:17

Folorunsho Alayo

YOU ARE NOT YET A FAILURE..

" WALKING REQUIRES TAKING 

ONE  LEG BEFORE AND 

AFTER THE OTHER"

It is a procedure that can 

accumulate and actually

covers miles

The more steps you take;

the more miles you 

progressed.

But a step in the right direction

is better than many steps  

targetted at the wrong 

directions.

Herein lies the seasons and

reasons that exempt you from

been a total and permanent

FAILURE.

Are you a failure?!. No, to the best of my knowledge, you're not. Though, at times been a failure could just be more worthy of a grandeur accolade. Inasmuch as whoever continues from wherever you stopped is willing and set to achieve the same goal will definitely not start all over again. Even if and when such is willing to start all over again that might just imply that the expected results are worthwhile enough for one to start again and again whenever one is been deterred by an unmitigated barrier. 

If you failed; by now such who is willing to continue from where you stopped could/should have learned from your failures and he/she would definitely not take things the more exact ways that ended you at the threshold of no fruition.

Because a source has been tapped and foundations been laid in order for cogent and proper minded exploit to proceed and progressed. There is actually something curious and cautious to be taught and learned by and from everybody who has attempted and failed. So, therefore; your perusing perceived failures should be and; it is actually a leaning learned attempted philosophical genre that has already been channelled but yet to be properly tailored for others to adapt and adopt without any twist to remunerating adjustment. 

 Failure is not never a breakdown to chaos rather, it is the primitive prerogative annexes that enable a paradigm shift of docility to purported activities. A purported activity gets you nowhere. This might accrue to an effort in futility. But a rightly intended one will soon blossom into the realities of those dreams you have almost always nurtured within the realm and enclaved of your heart. 

"Dreams are not supposed 

to remain unfulfilled

 forever so, therefore;

if you had any be rest

assured it could 

be fulfil".

Failures could be bred when the certainty to ascertained is not purposefully carried out. The credence of life on and about you is success and success all the way. But it doesn't just come to that at the whim or whiff of a fingertip. It requires effort laden activeness and acute prerequisite activities. The Lord Jesus Christ in the Bible didn't ask a lazy to 'come unto him'. Rather, He asked those who are heavy laden to come unto Him...(Mattew 18:28). Simon Peter fish all the night without success and they were asked to come unto Him because they were presently heavy laden. Luke 5:1-5

Let us take some closer look at this Bible verses. 

Simon was there fishing all night but couldn't catch even the little fish in the ocean. And the fishes were there. In the theory and thesis of oceanography, Simeon is an expert. A professional on the field. Then he called it off for the day as he was mending his fishing nets when the Saviour arrives asking for a ride on his boat. His boat, of course, wasn't the only one at the dock. But he never objected. He could have as well told him that 'I've worked all night and thereby so tired to grant your request. But he did nothing of the sort. He simply obliged to the master request because he believes 'He is not yet a failure'. 

When he was told to cast his net in the same oceans he has worked all night he merely protested for a while and then obliged. He obliged to prove himself right and the instructor wrong. But when he eventually did in order to show that he's not yet a failure'. The results were totally mind-boggling. Mind you Jesus never approached an indolent but His approach was toward someone in search of results. Someone engaged in active services. Because He fully understood as master of all that those are the ones who believed that they 'are not yet a failure'.  


Sometimes, within the enclaved of our life, failures will just remain a mere inconclusive mindset if you have never given it a more-much thought than that. But be reminded that; 

"A failure is a goal chaser

and a goal getter only if 

he does not stop aiming 

and chasing". 

Quietism could be all that you shouldn't give to your efforts. Instead give more endeavour, more research, more determinations not desperation. The more you tackle every iota of redundancy that is aimed against your expected achievements the more you create a purpose and a way that can no longer contain any acts that embrace failures.  

Though successes require you to reminiscence among not within the tentacles of failures, you don't and should not dwell among such tentacles for too long or forever. If you do, when and how do you access success?.  Your Yes/No could and should be given at the appropriate time. Given a no or yes when the intent to do so had not yet been scrutinized for certain evidence of a most convincingly 'No or Yes' would see someone as a fumble on or around that which should have been given a firm grasps of confidences.  

Failures are not about what you could not afford but it is rather about that which you have acquired but you could not put to effective uses. 

One could only be a failure; when all your 'technical know-how' has been deployed and yet no any single signs of fruition at sight. Even at that, if one is going to be, endeavour to be a positive or constructive failure. By these I mean, those kinds of failures that have already laid a progressive foundation whereby one could continue at any time freshet of enabling ideas flush in.

If it is within your ability and yet you refused to channel more or imbibed more efforts one would end up as a non-conformist and a non-celebrated failure. But if your targets and aims are beyond what you could simply achieve at the moment. i.e such results whose time to maturity is not yet ripe. On such case, you are not yet a failure. Because, even if you work mush and more, it simply means the time of attainment is not yet at hand. 

"As there is virtual 

time (stages) for 

everything"  

Although, one could find his/herself working arduously to bring it to be. It won't come to be until there's enough time for its maturity. You might want to ask 'why should that be?' Such goals simply require you to get more knowledge, by buying more time for you.

"Even nature doesn't make a 

butterfly  in a day, neither

 could you"

It has stages, everything in life has stages. Even successes and failures have stages. One might be compelled to be and live forever a failure. If and when you do or deliberately wouldn't understand or recognized those and such stages had or gotten by your perceived and pre-empt success or failures. Yet if you do, or yet do not. You are not yet a failure.

The stage you are now might just not be that at which results will be visible or attained. So does that already make you a failure?. No!. Not at all. You are not yet a failure. The Bible said;

If thou faint in the day 

of adversity, thy 

strength is small.

Proverb 24:10

Take the metamorphosis of a butterfly for example; some eggs don't attain pupa while some were snapped at the stage of larvae yet some were able to scale through the ambit and realms of many and everything predatory. Are those snapped by predators a failure?!. Nope. They're not. Battling with failures while encountering what you could not surmount is surely not you been a failure. But surrendering to that which you could overcome surely made you a failure.

Instead of you engaging in that battle you would surely lose. You could rather build or channel your ways around them or build through such. It is possible. 

Sometimes ago, the Boss I was staying with would almost always taunt and looked down on me. Though not on me alone as that sole attitude marked to be her psychological moments. And she wouldn't do this whenever we were alone. She has her right time, and such time would always be when two or more people were there with us either in the house or anywhere at all. She doesn't have a spot to reservation for showing these. Even whenever we were in and at any worship gathering. 

She would say "You are forgetting your position in this family, you're just a mere houseboy". Sometimes, I would reply that I haven't forgotten, in some other time, I would just frown without given any vocal response. And this continued for as long as I couldn't presently remember. Until a day came by, when we were in the market, buying things she made the same usual phrase and a woman who I have not known from Adam or seen standing nearby pop-up. Please permit me to use the word 'pop-up' because I didn't know where the woman came from. The woman retorted and shouted back at my madam. 'Quiet there woman! you don't need to announce to the whole market square that he is your house boy. We have eyes, and we could tell from his appearance. The way he dressed and from his famished and gaunt appearance. 

The truth be told, I have never in my whole life of staying with that family seen my madam been defeated and sobber as she was on that fateful day. Back then, I thought I was a failure; but now I can see, just as you too would presently or later understand that 'You are not yet a failure. 

Some acts of failures recede with the tide and time of growth and forgetfulness while some only escalates within the same period other kinds of failures are receding. None, nor either should or could make you a failure. what really makes you a failure is the preparation and determination of your mindset. But when and once this is pretty-perfectly prepared and the targetted results are yet to materialise. Be rest assured. You are not yet a failure.           

What are those areas of your perceived failures?. Marital, Societal, Organizational, Finacial etc buckle up as you are not yet a failure.   

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

You can please send your prayer request or any 

questions to the contacts below; 

folorunshoalayo@yahoo.com. 
Tel: +234 8033646382, 
+234 8023956872 (WhatsApp) 

God loves cheerful givers: 
Bank acct: Alayo Lateef Folorunsho 
3013041255 (First Bank Nigeria Plc)

Grace and peace be with all brethren all 
over the world for your support, Amen

Remember JESUS CHRIST 

was never sent to condemn 

but to save You.

John 3:17

Folorunsho Alayo

love is universal

   
                        There is enough love in the world.

                        Enough love to share and shun

                        enough to quench scarcity
                        and give more to plenty.

                                                      Enough to offend and be offended

                                                      enough to be sinful and forgiven
                                                      enough love to makes more friends and
                                                      less enmity; enough to eschew racism 

                                                      and enough to embrace all as
                                                      one and one as all.

                                    Enough to give and less to withdrawn
                                    There are enough beautiful songs
                                    and enough anxious, patience ears
                                    to listen to them.

                                                                         Enough lost and lust
                                                                         enough to be raised,
                                                                         rescued and saved
                                                                         enough to be betrothed
                                                                         than unions to be broken.
                                                                         Enough funeral than a
                                                                         wishful acts  of killing more


                  There are enough orphans
                  in the world than for
                  anyone to be societally
                 baren or philanthropically childless.

                                  There is enough space
                                        in your car than for you
                                            travelling all alone.

                                                    There are enough rooms
                                                         in your palacia abode
                                                             than for any to be an outcast
                                                                   or homeless.

                                                                        There are enough chicken
                                                                                in the world than for you
                                                                                   stealing from your neighbour's farms.
                                                                   
                                                                                                   Even those lovely little stray birds
                                                                                                    you could help keep until
                                                                                                      the owners come asking.
                                                                                                       Who knows, your dinner
                                                                                                          might be served
                                                                                                            with well-dressed turkey.
                                                                                                                 Instead of dining with a                                                                                                                                    burden conscience  laden                                                                                                                              stolen turkey

All these sayings are proverbial and metaphorical.  Revelation 2:7 (NKJV)

“He who has an ear, 

let him hear what the 

Spirit says to the churches. 

To him who overcomes I will

 give to eat from the tree

 of life, which is in the midst

 of the Paradise of God.” ’

With your wonderful, one little heart of kindness there's a whole lot of imbalance you could help balance. And some so many imperfections upon whose weakly erected entity your generous hands and hearts could play a most wonderfully, necessarily needed helping hands. If it seems alright and perfect for you at the moments. How about those whose source of income is in dire needs of help?. There is enough in the world waiting to be shared and by this, I do not mean jumping under every cover of sexual immoralities. That is carnal and do not gratify any and many of the gifts of the spirits.

"If it is in your heart 

to give;  love simply 

dwells within you 

and you among

 us that does the will of 
our Father who art in HEaven".

1 Corinthians 12:1-12 (KJV)

Now concerning spiritual gifts, 

brethren, I would not have 

you ignorant.

2 Ye know that ye were Gentiles, 

carried away unto these 

dumb idols, even as

 ye were led.

3 

Wherefore I give you to understand, 

that no man speaking by the 

Spirit of God calleth Jesus accursed: 

and that no man can say that 

Jesus is the Lord, but by 

the Holy Ghost.

4 

Now there are diversities of 

gifts, but the same Spirit.

5 

And there are differences 

of administrations, 

but the same Lord.

6 

And there are diversities of 

operations, but it is the same 

God which worketh all in all.

7 

But the manifestation of the 

Spirit is given to every man 

to profit withal.

8 

For to one is given by the 

Spirit the word of wisdom; to

 another the word of knowledge

 by the same Spirit;

9 

To another faith by the same Spirit;

 to another the gifts of healing 

by the same Spirit;

10 

To another the working of miracles; 

to another prophecy; to another 

discerning of spirits; to another 

divers kinds of tongues; to

 another the interpretation

 of tongues:

11 

But all these worketh that

 one and the selfsame Spirit, 

dividing to every man 

severally as he will.

12 

For as the body is one, 

and hath many members, 

and all the members of that 

one body, being many, 

are one body: 

so also is Christ.

Whenever you sit eating on your luxury dining table consider this; though you might want to argue that they all did it for a prize. But firstly considered the gold or silver plated cutlery you are eating with. The man  or Smith who made or fashion it never knew you'll be using it or when you might need it. But he proceeded to do it to serve a purpose or meet a need.

We are humans, and we are not humans for nothing sake. We are humans for a sake. For that human who is rich, you are rich not for yourself alone but also for the sake of those fellow humans who are materially incompetent and poor. And to those humans who have homes to live in, those homeless, hopeless, visionless are your sake. To those humans who have more than enough to eat, that hunger-stricken fellow human is your sake. Even when and if you would not have any further reason(s) for doing these, do it for humanity sake.

He who has a place to run away from the cold should remember and consider those who had nowhere to run away from the cold. 

Love as it is, is not having all your principles maintained the exact 

way you have outlined them, but it involved withdrawal and going 

beyond the limits of your principles.

Inasmuch as it is for 

humanity sake"  

John 13:34-35  (KJV)
34 A new commandment 
I give unto you, That ye love 
one another; as I have loved
 you, that ye also love 
one another.


35 By this shall all men 
know that ye are my disciples, 
if ye have love one to 
another.

Sometimes we think we can do it and sometimes we think we cannot do it but our creator knows our capacity so therefore if you think you can do it go ahead and do it but if you think you cannot do it, do not quit until you have given it a try. But the eventuality of all these matters is that the rich will die likewise the poor. The Haves and the have not. At a point in time, we shall return to the dust while our spirit shall be harvested either for justifications or rustication. And the good Lord shall say to the ones on the right...Matthew 25:35 - 40

If you are still been led or guided by the negative thesis of racism before you could lend a helping hand to that person who most necessarily needed it. You are not matured enough to share the goodies-good news and messages of love. Love is that seed which was given to all and sundry to be shared. If you truly have it; go ahead and share it. God bless you as you do so.

You might be reluctantly wondering if the little love you are about going to share is actually going to make any meaningful difference. But to that hearts and hands who most needed it. That kind, little act of yours is sure a long way to procure and save a long furlong lost soul.

1 Corinthians 13:13 (NKJV)

13 And now abide faith, hope, 

love, these three; but the greatest 

of these is love.

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

You can please send your prayer request or any 

questions to the contacts below; 

folorunshoalayo@yahoo.com. 
Tel: +234 8033646382, 
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God loves cheerful givers: 
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Grace and peace be with all brethren all 
over the world for your support, Amen

Remember JESUS CHRIST 

was never sent to condemn 

but to save You.

John 3:17

Folorunsho Alayo