MARITAL IMMATURITY

If you cannot forgive;

Do not fall in love.

If you cannot persevere

Do not fall in love

If you could not be offended

Do not fall in Love

If you do not want to share your

anything or everything with anybody

Please do not fall in love.

If you cannot correct or be corrected

Please; still do not fall in love.

Because no man frolics with failures

more than that who seek successes

where there’s none.

Because ‘love’ is an angelic saintly disguise that covers all the imaginable and unimaginable. Love never exist in denial of all that is good or bad, fake or original, corrupt or incorruptible; rather Love is an extension of some of the things you like and; everything you do not like. Love didn’t deny the existence of those habits you do not want to be treated with; it simply covers them. And this serves a cogent notice to you as someone who genuinely wants to be in love to also be fully prepared to overlook, by not noticing every wrong move of that whom you claimed to love and also be willing to forgive totally. As totally as if, it has never happened. 

If love can appoint

 it can also disappoint; 
So to play safely in love

while going in, prepare 

your mind the two ways

 one for appointment 

and the other for 

disappointment. 

Whichever strikes the 
other will fortify you
because falling in love 
might absolutely mean
that you're dealing 
with humans.

Some of who could not even 
trust themselves, let alone 
trusting you.

No one can disappoint you
except you neither is there any
who can appoint you 
except you. 

As 
appointment and disappoint 
requires your consents;
your participation.

Remember. The person you 
do not trust can never, 
ever betray you. 

Of course it's easy to love
but hard to know 
whom to love.  

1 Peter 4:8 (KJV)

And above all things have fervent charity

among yourselves: for charity shall cover

the multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8 (WEB)

And above all things be earnest in

your love among yourselves,

for love covers a multitude of sins.

Matthew 18:21-25 (NKJV)

The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant

²¹ Then Peter came to Him and said, 
“Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me,
and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”

1 John 1:8 (KJV)

If we say that we have no sin,

we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

1 John 4:8 (KJV)

He that loveth not knoweth not God; 

for God is love.

Marital Immaturity:

I must please craved your positive indulgence as you read through this epistle. All aspect of Maturity is never meted by age or years. In a matrimony, there’s nothing wrong neither is there any more proper if the wife is attitudinally matured than the husband. Neither is there anything proper or incorrect if the husband is more reserved, materialistic or financially matured than the wife. As measuring an inconsiderable or considerable but disproportion sides of matrimony breeds an unnecessary alibi that pulled apart the once perfectly knotted nuptial blissfulness.  

Marital maturity; As we are want to know entailed those abilities and reasonability that do not present or showcased a married woman or man as just a mere teenager. The way they cope and handled every marital situation, from finances to romance, childbearing/rearing, disputes etc. Marital Immaturity could be responsible for the excessive monitoring or mentoring of kids within the family. By so doing hampering their movements to free to play; and it is equally a physique or psychological response to marital immaturity not to safeguard them while at play, in order to ensure their movements to safety.

It is an emblem of maturity when you chose to know their next moves and reasons for such decisions. Mostly when such kids are still too young to decides accurate and firmly. Parents should be; as you are expected and you should be seen and positively noted as one who modelled the children on the platform that perfect decision making. As derailing or failing to do or achieved these could portend one as someone rumbling or battling within the helm of marital immaturity. 

The woman by the well was definitely battling with lots of marital immaturities but she thought she could conceal this for long during her encounter which the Lord Jesus Christ. But the good Lord had these to say to her'

John 4:1-25 (Please read the entire chapter) 

6 Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, 

tired as he was from the journey, 

sat down by the well.

 It was about noon.

7 

When a Samaritan woman came to
 draw water, Jesus said to her, 

“Will you give me a drink?” 

8

 (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)

9 The Samaritan woman said to him, 

“You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. 

How can you ask me for a drink?” 

(For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.[a])   

Therefore, unknown to her was denying herself of more glory and favour as she even refused to give out of the little she thought she had gotten. The Well, of course, belonged to Jesus earthly descendant, and everything in heaven and on earth equally belonged to Him. (Matthew 28:18) But here is a woman refusing the owner an access to what duly belong to Him. When you naturally refused to give to others simply because you think you do not know their source or antecedent it's a clear display of Marital Immaturity. If you wouldn't help because you don't know him or her and you were so scared of losing the little you had, that is an act that is totally immature. 

1. Jesus could not give the woman more because she lied, and refused to path with what does not even belong to her. 

2. She chose her beneficiaries by race

3. The good Lord chose His beneficiary by grace ( Ephesisans 2:8-9)

4. Her marital status was totally immature

Luke 6:38 King James Version (KJV)

38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure,
 pressed down, and shaken together, 
and running over, shall men give
 into your bosom. For with the same 
measure that ye metewithal it shall 

be measured to you again.

5. Despite these, the Lord granted her grace because she repented. 

Ephesians 2:8-9 King James Version (KJV)

8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; 

and that not of yourselves: 

it is the gift of God:

9 Not of works, lest any man should boast. 

2 Corinthians 9:6-7 King James Version (KJV)
6 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; 
and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.

7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, 
so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: 
for God loveth a cheerful giver.

It is immature to assume or affirmed so cheaply that there’s someone out there better than your spouse. As this is a(n) habit to demean your spouse and also yourself because you could have opted for that instead of getting hooked on that you will later regret. It is a total submission to aberration if you would still find yourself jumping under every bedspread with your spouse’s friends while you could have initially opted for that from the onset. It clearly showcased you as someone with a poor, weak and lowly esteemed decision making. An act evidence of Marital Immaturity.

Marital Immaturity (Failure) has the very limited rooms for flimsy excuses, as Marital Maturity do. No matter how flimsy your excuses are, Marital Maturity will accommodate them. Immaturity sees why you shouldn’t complain but maturity sees why you should, and let you evaded the risk.  Marital Maturity expects a child to cry when he/she is beaten. But Marital Immaturity expects such child not cry. The sage question is when you do not expect such child to cry; Why did you beat him/her?.

In case you are one of the sorts who is fully laden with such. If you are the type who cheaply succumbed to an excuse as flimsy as ‘my spouse is not good in the kitchen’ and that is the reason why you opted for another better cook as a wife/husband. That is a clear-cut of Marital Immaturity. As cooking is not all that is needed in a marriage besides; you could have initially gone for a better cook if that is all you desire in a matrimony. Instead of you unnecessarily displaying your marital immaturity as one or that who do not choose correctly. And I’m informing you properly; in matrimony where love reigned supreme. None is or should be restricted to a particular task(es). Either of you could be the cook, or the gardener, in a place where none is presently employed.  If both drives to the gate one or both of you should get down to open the gate. If you are the only one available, won’t you get the gate?. Of course, you wouldn’t scale the fence as a result of that. Even if you do, will you also throw the car over the fence?!. 

The spouse upon whose shoulders or mindset you have intended to put or push all the blames is never an outsider to the body, heart, mind or brain where such blames are coming from. So, How long do you intend blaming yourself?.

Because your spouse is just another you in a different term. An aspect that should be instinctual; and properly coordinated in the affluence of whatever means that is most available within the coordinate of both immediate and extended families.  

Mark 10:8 (NKJV)

and the two shall become one flesh’; 

so then they are no longer two, 

but one flesh.

Marital Immaturity empowers you to virtually see and find faults in and on everything the others do. You could barely cope or see that your spouse is one of the best, that is most suitably cute and fitted for you as the best by the best on the best for the best. The complaint, as not been the best on the bed is not it at all. Besides if you have never tasted or experienced one before. There wouldn’t be a stage set for comparison. As this is a union, a matrimony not a stage set for porn stars. And this is not in any way portends that one does not get his or her desires satisfied within the matrimony. But there are enough rooms during courtship to know if this is for you, or not for you. There’s clearly a man to every woman and every man likewise. But be sure, very, very sure, that which you are turning down for others to cling to is not that who is clearly meant for you. If he/she is your bone of the bones, there won't be issues as incompetently as not been sexually satisfied. 

As the greatest 

marital Immaturity that can

ever beset any humans is 

been wrongly attached 

to a choice.

It is a total marital immaturity after decades of staying together, as husband and wife you could still not find on what marital cogency the matrimony should be hinged upon in order to easily forgive one another. No matrimony is totally perfect but each and everyone involved had to endure seemingly perfect abilities in order to eschew totally perceived immature attitudes. For instance, it is an act that is unwholesome and unbecoming when after decades of staying together in HOLY MATRIMONY one still do not have an edge, upon which marital considerations could be bestowed as the yardstick and why one would easily forgive his/her spouse.

As a result of Marital Immaturity, a notable President spouse refused to hold hands in public with her spouse. And despite their reputation, proposed maturity by status, by fame, by age etc. This single act of marital immaturity has laden every hearts, privy or exposed to their actions and reactions. To wander as to how they had been coping or acting towards each other at home. As probing camera was seen after them everywhere to confirmed and affirmed whether the insinuation is genuine or not. Of course, it is.

Is that how they started? No! Those hands were probably tightly held from the beginning. What really transpired now to warrant these shows of marital immaturity would have clearly been attitudes which one or either of them possessed before the fire for the matrimony were even ignited. Facts that you are ready or willing to fall in love with whatever rustication or justifications have emboldened you to forgive without looking back. Just forgive and save your matrimony any further show of marital immaturity.    

In France recently a little four-year-old boy was seen dangling from a height of four stories to the base. Thank good heaven that it was never a complete derogatory accident. And reports had it that the Parents of the little boy were not at home. That’s a clear evidence of Marital immaturity. Because marital maturity when fully integrated and engendered should carry along any and every member of the family to the safest sides of life even pets. Though, the little boy’s Parent might have concluded that locking him up in that apartment is the safest mean of protection. But that is an act that is totally immature for couples to relapsed in taken the welfares of their children into an absolute cognizance consideration. It is a home, not a prison yard. What happened to the little soul in case of other endemic disasters like fire outbreak?. So, therefore locking up shouldn’t have arisen. The little boy was just trying to escape boredom. That is it.

He might have watched a whole lot of cartoon characters like Ben X, Spiderman, The Incredible, The Lion King, Finding Nemo, Shark Tale, Open Season, Happy Feet, Despicable Me etc. That eventually led to this despicable action as perceived by his little membrane as the best better act to set himself out of that entanglement. Thank God for His mercy, (Psalm 121:4). The little boy already trapped before he realized that 68%  or more of cartoon characters were just mere fictions. (Psalm 124:1-3). As Oscar, the lead character in shark tale rightly asked. 

“Are you not entertained!”. “You can’t handle the truth”.

Exactly the entire neighbourhood of Northern Paris could not handle the truth as they were terribly entertained. By the dangling sight of a four-year-old boy on the balcony of a building of four stories away from the floor. Thank God for His saving prowess and abilities. He sent His guarding angels in the guise of an unknown family member by subtle of an illegal immigrant. All the way from Mali. Just like Hammy the character in Over the Edge said: “I’m not stupid”. The 22-year-old Mamoudou Gassama could have under the guise of marital immaturity concealed his presence to avoid being repatriated back to Mali. But the zeal not to see a soul perished surpassed the guilt of being illegally migrated and that of the glare of the law. As he leapt from balcony to balcony after scaling the fence. His five senses couldn’t have been able to achieve this. Hallelujah!. As the little boy was saved and in good health. Praise the Lord!

You might be thinking I was mistaken by alluding that the 22 years old guy is another family member. Yes, of course, he is. Is he not?.

"Everybody is a body

Except that somebody

Who proved to be nobody"       

He was not the only one there. But he was the only one who could see and reason differently. How long do you think the neighbour pulling from the other division of the floor could tenaciously hold onto the little boy?. And would the man holding onto him and such little boy be able to maintain such a discomforting posture before the arrival of the state's firefighters?. Even the Paris Major who had repeatedly brood the situation had to personally call him on phone to thank him profusely. And the President does not hesitate to extend his invitation. 

Every human is a product of one or the other failed or successful matured or immature matrimony. The more you looked down on yourself, the more you disregard the matrimony out of which you are a product. In everything involving you, always see yourself as the best and nothing but the best. Disabilities or not almost always maintained the reality and the facts that you are the best. There, of course, won't be anything wrong with our universe if each and every one of us sees his or herself as the best in anything he or she does. As in so doing, you are casting a lasting, righteous blessing on the matrimony out of which you were made.

Colossians 1:27 (KJV)

To whom God would make known what is 

the riches of the glory of this mystery 

among the Gentiles; which is Christ 

in you, the hope of glory:

And Just in case you do not know ‘Parents’ spirit (hearts) are the inboxes whereby the next, steps, event, i.e. happenstance of their children were been instinctually deposited. What a clear jolt of Marital Immaturity. If you had time to meet the boy's Parents I can affirm to you that both had before now contend on the issue regarding the boy's guidance before this immature act that eventually heralds their marital immaturity. (Please. No insults intended to the family) Such a little young boy shouldn’t have been left all alone in the first instance. Even day before or the day it occurred their spirit has surely received the warning, it could either be there were unresolved disputes as a result of marital immaturity. And that could not enabled them to heed to such warnings.

Even if the matrimony out which you were made was so immature that you could hardly be proud of it. It is now behoved upon you as a man or woman going into or ready for marriage to ensure you never equally made that into which you are an immature matrimony. As by so doing; you'll grieve your parents at heart. Your mother particularly. Because parents are to guide and warn you not to toll that path which they toll and later regret.    

Yes!. The children were not there when you started. But now along the journey, here they come! And here they are. The reports also had it that the Father locked him in their apartment and left for his routinely official duty while the mother is absolutely at the moment not anywhere within the geography of entire northern Paris.  

But we thank the good Lord for the safety of the little boy. The young man involved in the rescue, the entire neighbourhood of Northen Paris, the state firefighters and the French President who admits and approved the stay of the young Malian and integrated him to work within one of the rescue mission department. May the peace and grace of God continue to be with us all in Jesus name. 

Paix et grâce au garçon, à ses parents, à ses sauveteurs et à nous tous au nom puissant de Jésus. Amen (Google translations)

Spouses birthing each other with lethal substance or weapon it’s a demean resort from marital immaturity. You were never forced into such relationship even if you were forced there are still other relatively positive means of backing out of such relationship inasmuch as the law of the land has never in any or every way supported it. Even if the law of the land supported it; and you have exhausted all means of living amicably together. I won’t write to you as one who has not experienced or witness marital abuse. I was raised within the loins of many of the sort. So I wouldn’t write to you as an unknown entity but rather as a family, a confidant and won’t dare advise you to endured or live your entire life within one or any of the sort. It would amount to a great misappropriation of marital advise and whiff of psychological misconduct on my person. If I do not hitherto warn or write to you as concerning element of such experience. 

But it is good, and I will be most happy if and only if you had never been there at all. Domestic violence which is an act and stems of MARITAL IMMATURITY. Has been on high record around and all over the world; of which the female child (women) has utmost(ly) be at the receiving end. This is not in any way a disregard on the facts that women also tend to be the ones violently abusing their husbands within an instance of domestic violence an abysmal of failed, disjointed, and disgruntled marital immaturity. But this I guessed would almost always be a ratio within the range of 8:2.

Nonetheless; ratio or not an abuse still do not have any other literary, matrimonial or societal representation except been wrong. As sins still remained the only short and long routes to hell just as repentance, grace and forgiveness through our Lord Jesus Christ remained the safest and surest way to Heaven.

Luke 23:32-43 King James Version (KJV)  
³⁹ And one of the malefactors which were hanged

 railed on him, saying, If thou be Christ,

 save thyself and us.

⁴⁰ But the other answering rebuked him, saying, 

Dost not thou fear God, seeing thou art in

 the same condemnation?

⁴¹ And we indeed justly; for we receive the due 

reward of our deeds: but this man hath

 done nothing amiss.

⁴² And he said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me

 when thou comest into thy kingdom.

Why should you as a man, put a woman under your roof under the guise and tenet of matrimony without you paying a dime to her Parents as dowry?. And you as a woman under such roof without given any or every necessary marital credence to your Parents or guardians. Even if you were raised by those nurses at the motherless home. It is your prerogatives right to take something back to the source where you came from no matter how small or big it is. As not doing these is a clear act of Marital immaturity. It is wrong for you as a woman to step into a man’s world or under his roof and continue living with him as a woman. Yes!. You are just a woman to him, Not a wife, inasmuch as the (yours & his) Parents were never dully decorated by been given whatever deemed appropriate. The man who does this is maritally immature. And, any woman who does this is likewise maritally immature.

Didn't you noticed Royal Wedding of May 19, 2018?. Perfect and full of life and style in the most grandeur way. How would you step into matrimony without involving all necessary witnesses?. The law of the land was never aware, your parents, relatives and extended families. The religious body you belonged to. There is need to fully or partially involved some or all of them. Just in case, the male or female partner belonging to such relationship turned out to be one who abused the other. The law or any and every appropriate quarter(s) would step in. Adam after he was enjoined in Holy matrimony to his wife; Eve. God still constantly stepped in to see how better they coped under their newly enjoined home.

Men or Women do not necessarily grow or matured by age or years. There are some men in their 40s, 50s who still behaved like little boys of twelve or nine years old. Like women who still do not see why they should drop their teenage attitudes. Despite the facts been mothers to grown-up children. When they could no longer cope under whatever duress portend by such matrimonies they cried like babies. And this do not physically present them as babies, but mentally the stress and agony of such matrimony weighs them down.

Marital Immaturity does not unthinkably set in or on any family. It's a gradual process and so it continued until it ramifies the entire family calculability. Why should you be content when your children chose to spend more time in the neighbour's apartment rather than the family's apartment?. What are they doing that made even the children born into the family preferred going there over staying in the family apartment?. 

It is immature and irresponsible for you to present your family too cheaply to your spouse. By so doing you’ve given him/her a viable abusive tool to use against you. It is equally immature to threaten each other with or by the law. But do not fail to apply or imply same when he or she uptrend his/her constant and repeated abuse. It is gross marital immaturity on you to die before death.

When the love is fresh and young (immature) Do not throw, flaunt or enmeshed yourself on, or around him/her without been fully sure of the needs to do so. Change is constant. Don’t as a result of your late entry in ‘marriage' lose your reasonability to questioning, investigate and analysed. Be sure he/she is genuinely meant for you. Question, inspect and demand evidence assurance from the spirit that made and lives in you. To be sure you are not aligning your entire being with the devil’s next of kin. It doesn’t show at first approach but there’s a teacher in you and is ready and willing to lead and guide you aright. And you can easily hear from the spirit that lives in you mostly; and especially if you’ve not already sexually aligned yourself with the person in question. Because it’s not easy to see yourself as others see you. Been sexually involved with the person whose what and wherever about you are wanting to questioned might just easily make him/her a part of yourself which might just not be easily seen or fathomed by yourself.

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

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Grace and peace be with all brethren all 
over the world for your support, Amen

Remember JESUS CHRIST 

was never sent to condemn 

but to save You.

John 3:17

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