MARITAL IMMATURITY

If you cannot forgive;

Do not fall in love.

If you cannot persevere

Do not fall in love

If you could not be offended

Do not fall in Love

If you do not want to share your

anything or everything with anybody

Please do not fall in love.

If you cannot correct or be corrected

Please; still do not fall in love.

Because no man frolics with failures

more than that who seek successes

where there’s none.

Because ‘love’ is an angelic saintly disguise that covers all the imaginable and unimaginable. Love never exist in denial of all that is good or bad, fake or original, corrupt or incorruptible; rather Love is an extension of some of the things you like and; everything you do not like. Love didn’t deny the existence of those habits you do not want to be treated with; it simply covers them. And this serves a cogent notice to you as someone who genuinely wants to be in love to also be fully prepared to overlook, by not noticing every wrong move of that whom you claimed to love and also be willing to forgive totally. As totally as if, it has never happened. 

If love can appoint

 it can also disappoint; 
So to play safely in love

while going in, prepare 

your mind the two ways

 one for appointment 

and the other for 

disappointment. 

Whichever strikes the 
other will fortify you
because falling in love 
might absolutely mean
that you're dealing 
with humans.

Some of who could not even 
trust themselves, let alone 
trusting you.

No one can disappoint you
except you neither is there any
who can appoint you 
except you. 

As 
appointment and disappoint 
requires your consents;
your participation.

Remember. The person you 
do not trust can never, 
ever betray you. 

Of course it's easy to love
but hard to know 
whom to love.  

1 Peter 4:8 (KJV)

And above all things have fervent charity

among yourselves: for charity shall cover

the multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8 (WEB)

And above all things be earnest in

your love among yourselves,

for love covers a multitude of sins.

Matthew 18:21-25 (NKJV)

The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant

²¹ Then Peter came to Him and said, 
“Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me,
and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”

1 John 1:8 (KJV)

If we say that we have no sin,

we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.

1 John 4:8 (KJV)

He that loveth not knoweth not God; 

for God is love.

Marital Immaturity:

I must please craved your positive indulgence as you read through this epistle. All aspect of Maturity is never meted by age or years. In a matrimony, there’s nothing wrong neither is there any more proper if the wife is attitudinally matured than the husband. Neither is there anything proper or incorrect if the husband is more reserved, materialistic or financially matured than the wife. As measuring an inconsiderable or considerable but disproportion sides of matrimony breeds an unnecessary alibi that pulled apart the once perfectly knotted nuptial blissfulness.  

Marital maturity; As we are want to know entailed those abilities and reasonability that do not present or showcased a married woman or man as just a mere teenager. The way they cope and handled every marital situation, from finances to romance, childbearing/rearing, disputes etc. Marital Immaturity could be responsible for the excessive monitoring or mentoring of kids within the family. By so doing hampering their movements to free to play; and it is equally a physique or psychological response to marital immaturity not to safeguard them while at play, in order to ensure their movements to safety.

It is an emblem of maturity when you chose to know their next moves and reasons for such decisions. Mostly when such kids are still too young to decides accurate and firmly. Parents should be; as you are expected and you should be seen and positively noted as one who modelled the children on the platform that perfect decision making. As derailing or failing to do or achieved these could portend one as someone rumbling or battling within the helm of marital immaturity. 

The woman by the well was definitely battling with lots of marital immaturities but she thought she could conceal this for long during her encounter which the Lord Jesus Christ. But the good Lord had these to say to her'

John 4:1-25 (Please read the entire chapter) 

6 Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, 

tired as he was from the journey, 

sat down by the well.

 It was about noon.

7 

When a Samaritan woman came to
 draw water, Jesus said to her, 

“Will you give me a drink?” 

8

 (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)

9 The Samaritan woman said to him, 

“You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. 

How can you ask me for a drink?” 

(For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.[a])   

Therefore, unknown to her was denying herself of more glory and favour as she even refused to give out of the little she thought she had gotten. The Well, of course, belonged to Jesus earthly descendant, and everything in heaven and on earth equally belonged to Him. (Matthew 28:18) But here is a woman refusing the owner an access to what duly belong to Him. When you naturally refused to give to others simply because you think you do not know their source or antecedent it's a clear display of Marital Immaturity. If you wouldn't help because you don't know him or her and you were so scared of losing the little you had, that is an act that is totally immature. 

1. Jesus could not give the woman more because she lied, and refused to path with what does not even belong to her. 

2. She chose her beneficiaries by race

3. The good Lord chose His beneficiary by grace ( Ephesisans 2:8-9)

4. Her marital status was totally immature

Luke 6:38 King James Version (KJV)

38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure,
 pressed down, and shaken together, 
and running over, shall men give
 into your bosom. For with the same 
measure that ye metewithal it shall 

be measured to you again.

5. Despite these, the Lord granted her grace because she repented. 

Ephesians 2:8-9 King James Version (KJV)

8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; 

and that not of yourselves: 

it is the gift of God:

9 Not of works, lest any man should boast. 

2 Corinthians 9:6-7 King James Version (KJV)
6 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; 
and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.

7 Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, 
so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: 
for God loveth a cheerful giver.

It is immature to assume or affirmed so cheaply that there’s someone out there better than your spouse. As this is a(n) habit to demean your spouse and also yourself because you could have opted for that instead of getting hooked on that you will later regret. It is a total submission to aberration if you would still find yourself jumping under every bedspread with your spouse’s friends while you could have initially opted for that from the onset. It clearly showcased you as someone with a poor, weak and lowly esteemed decision making. An act evidence of Marital Immaturity.

Marital Immaturity (Failure) has the very limited rooms for flimsy excuses, as Marital Maturity do. No matter how flimsy your excuses are, Marital Maturity will accommodate them. Immaturity sees why you shouldn’t complain but maturity sees why you should, and let you evaded the risk.  Marital Maturity expects a child to cry when he/she is beaten. But Marital Immaturity expects such child not cry. The sage question is when you do not expect such child to cry; Why did you beat him/her?.

In case you are one of the sorts who is fully laden with such. If you are the type who cheaply succumbed to an excuse as flimsy as ‘my spouse is not good in the kitchen’ and that is the reason why you opted for another better cook as a wife/husband. That is a clear-cut of Marital Immaturity. As cooking is not all that is needed in a marriage besides; you could have initially gone for a better cook if that is all you desire in a matrimony. Instead of you unnecessarily displaying your marital immaturity as one or that who do not choose correctly. And I’m informing you properly; in matrimony where love reigned supreme. None is or should be restricted to a particular task(es). Either of you could be the cook, or the gardener, in a place where none is presently employed.  If both drives to the gate one or both of you should get down to open the gate. If you are the only one available, won’t you get the gate?. Of course, you wouldn’t scale the fence as a result of that. Even if you do, will you also throw the car over the fence?!. 

The spouse upon whose shoulders or mindset you have intended to put or push all the blames is never an outsider to the body, heart, mind or brain where such blames are coming from. So, How long do you intend blaming yourself?.

Because your spouse is just another you in a different term. An aspect that should be instinctual; and properly coordinated in the affluence of whatever means that is most available within the coordinate of both immediate and extended families.  

Mark 10:8 (NKJV)

and the two shall become one flesh’; 

so then they are no longer two, 

but one flesh.

Marital Immaturity empowers you to virtually see and find faults in and on everything the others do. You could barely cope or see that your spouse is one of the best, that is most suitably cute and fitted for you as the best by the best on the best for the best. The complaint, as not been the best on the bed is not it at all. Besides if you have never tasted or experienced one before. There wouldn’t be a stage set for comparison. As this is a union, a matrimony not a stage set for porn stars. And this is not in any way portends that one does not get his or her desires satisfied within the matrimony. But there are enough rooms during courtship to know if this is for you, or not for you. There’s clearly a man to every woman and every man likewise. But be sure, very, very sure, that which you are turning down for others to cling to is not that who is clearly meant for you. If he/she is your bone of the bones, there won't be issues as incompetently as not been sexually satisfied. 

As the greatest 

marital Immaturity that can

ever beset any humans is 

been wrongly attached 

to a choice.

It is a total marital immaturity after decades of staying together, as husband and wife you could still not find on what marital cogency the matrimony should be hinged upon in order to easily forgive one another. No matrimony is totally perfect but each and everyone involved had to endure seemingly perfect abilities in order to eschew totally perceived immature attitudes. For instance, it is an act that is unwholesome and unbecoming when after decades of staying together in HOLY MATRIMONY one still do not have an edge, upon which marital considerations could be bestowed as the yardstick and why one would easily forgive his/her spouse.

As a result of Marital Immaturity, a notable President spouse refused to hold hands in public with her spouse. And despite their reputation, proposed maturity by status, by fame, by age etc. This single act of marital immaturity has laden every hearts, privy or exposed to their actions and reactions. To wander as to how they had been coping or acting towards each other at home. As probing camera was seen after them everywhere to confirmed and affirmed whether the insinuation is genuine or not. Of course, it is.

Is that how they started? No! Those hands were probably tightly held from the beginning. What really transpired now to warrant these shows of marital immaturity would have clearly been attitudes which one or either of them possessed before the fire for the matrimony were even ignited. Facts that you are ready or willing to fall in love with whatever rustication or justifications have emboldened you to forgive without looking back. Just forgive and save your matrimony any further show of marital immaturity.    

In France recently a little four-year-old boy was seen dangling from a height of four stories to the base. Thank good heaven that it was never a complete derogatory accident. And reports had it that the Parents of the little boy were not at home. That’s a clear evidence of Marital immaturity. Because marital maturity when fully integrated and engendered should carry along any and every member of the family to the safest sides of life even pets. Though, the little boy’s Parent might have concluded that locking him up in that apartment is the safest mean of protection. But that is an act that is totally immature for couples to relapsed in taken the welfares of their children into an absolute cognizance consideration. It is a home, not a prison yard. What happened to the little soul in case of other endemic disasters like fire outbreak?. So, therefore locking up shouldn’t have arisen. The little boy was just trying to escape boredom. That is it.

He might have watched a whole lot of cartoon characters like Ben X, Spiderman, The Incredible, The Lion King, Finding Nemo, Shark Tale, Open Season, Happy Feet, Despicable Me etc. That eventually led to this despicable action as perceived by his little membrane as the best better act to set himself out of that entanglement. Thank God for His mercy, (Psalm 121:4). The little boy already trapped before he realized that 68%  or more of cartoon characters were just mere fictions. (Psalm 124:1-3). As Oscar, the lead character in shark tale rightly asked. 

“Are you not entertained!”. “You can’t handle the truth”.

Exactly the entire neighbourhood of Northern Paris could not handle the truth as they were terribly entertained. By the dangling sight of a four-year-old boy on the balcony of a building of four stories away from the floor. Thank God for His saving prowess and abilities. He sent His guarding angels in the guise of an unknown family member by subtle of an illegal immigrant. All the way from Mali. Just like Hammy the character in Over the Edge said: “I’m not stupid”. The 22-year-old Mamoudou Gassama could have under the guise of marital immaturity concealed his presence to avoid being repatriated back to Mali. But the zeal not to see a soul perished surpassed the guilt of being illegally migrated and that of the glare of the law. As he leapt from balcony to balcony after scaling the fence. His five senses couldn’t have been able to achieve this. Hallelujah!. As the little boy was saved and in good health. Praise the Lord!

You might be thinking I was mistaken by alluding that the 22 years old guy is another family member. Yes, of course, he is. Is he not?.

"Everybody is a body

Except that somebody

Who proved to be nobody"       

He was not the only one there. But he was the only one who could see and reason differently. How long do you think the neighbour pulling from the other division of the floor could tenaciously hold onto the little boy?. And would the man holding onto him and such little boy be able to maintain such a discomforting posture before the arrival of the state's firefighters?. Even the Paris Major who had repeatedly brood the situation had to personally call him on phone to thank him profusely. And the President does not hesitate to extend his invitation. 

Every human is a product of one or the other failed or successful matured or immature matrimony. The more you looked down on yourself, the more you disregard the matrimony out of which you are a product. In everything involving you, always see yourself as the best and nothing but the best. Disabilities or not almost always maintained the reality and the facts that you are the best. There, of course, won't be anything wrong with our universe if each and every one of us sees his or herself as the best in anything he or she does. As in so doing, you are casting a lasting, righteous blessing on the matrimony out of which you were made.

Colossians 1:27 (KJV)

To whom God would make known what is 

the riches of the glory of this mystery 

among the Gentiles; which is Christ 

in you, the hope of glory:

And Just in case you do not know ‘Parents’ spirit (hearts) are the inboxes whereby the next, steps, event, i.e. happenstance of their children were been instinctually deposited. What a clear jolt of Marital Immaturity. If you had time to meet the boy's Parents I can affirm to you that both had before now contend on the issue regarding the boy's guidance before this immature act that eventually heralds their marital immaturity. (Please. No insults intended to the family) Such a little young boy shouldn’t have been left all alone in the first instance. Even day before or the day it occurred their spirit has surely received the warning, it could either be there were unresolved disputes as a result of marital immaturity. And that could not enabled them to heed to such warnings.

Even if the matrimony out which you were made was so immature that you could hardly be proud of it. It is now behoved upon you as a man or woman going into or ready for marriage to ensure you never equally made that into which you are an immature matrimony. As by so doing; you'll grieve your parents at heart. Your mother particularly. Because parents are to guide and warn you not to toll that path which they toll and later regret.    

Yes!. The children were not there when you started. But now along the journey, here they come! And here they are. The reports also had it that the Father locked him in their apartment and left for his routinely official duty while the mother is absolutely at the moment not anywhere within the geography of entire northern Paris.  

But we thank the good Lord for the safety of the little boy. The young man involved in the rescue, the entire neighbourhood of Northen Paris, the state firefighters and the French President who admits and approved the stay of the young Malian and integrated him to work within one of the rescue mission department. May the peace and grace of God continue to be with us all in Jesus name. 

Paix et grâce au garçon, à ses parents, à ses sauveteurs et à nous tous au nom puissant de Jésus. Amen (Google translations)

Spouses birthing each other with lethal substance or weapon it’s a demean resort from marital immaturity. You were never forced into such relationship even if you were forced there are still other relatively positive means of backing out of such relationship inasmuch as the law of the land has never in any or every way supported it. Even if the law of the land supported it; and you have exhausted all means of living amicably together. I won’t write to you as one who has not experienced or witness marital abuse. I was raised within the loins of many of the sort. So I wouldn’t write to you as an unknown entity but rather as a family, a confidant and won’t dare advise you to endured or live your entire life within one or any of the sort. It would amount to a great misappropriation of marital advise and whiff of psychological misconduct on my person. If I do not hitherto warn or write to you as concerning element of such experience. 

But it is good, and I will be most happy if and only if you had never been there at all. Domestic violence which is an act and stems of MARITAL IMMATURITY. Has been on high record around and all over the world; of which the female child (women) has utmost(ly) be at the receiving end. This is not in any way a disregard on the facts that women also tend to be the ones violently abusing their husbands within an instance of domestic violence an abysmal of failed, disjointed, and disgruntled marital immaturity. But this I guessed would almost always be a ratio within the range of 8:2.

Nonetheless; ratio or not an abuse still do not have any other literary, matrimonial or societal representation except been wrong. As sins still remained the only short and long routes to hell just as repentance, grace and forgiveness through our Lord Jesus Christ remained the safest and surest way to Heaven.

Luke 23:32-43 King James Version (KJV)  
³⁹ And one of the malefactors which were hanged

 railed on him, saying, If thou be Christ,

 save thyself and us.

⁴⁰ But the other answering rebuked him, saying, 

Dost not thou fear God, seeing thou art in

 the same condemnation?

⁴¹ And we indeed justly; for we receive the due 

reward of our deeds: but this man hath

 done nothing amiss.

⁴² And he said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me

 when thou comest into thy kingdom.

Why should you as a man, put a woman under your roof under the guise and tenet of matrimony without you paying a dime to her Parents as dowry?. And you as a woman under such roof without given any or every necessary marital credence to your Parents or guardians. Even if you were raised by those nurses at the motherless home. It is your prerogatives right to take something back to the source where you came from no matter how small or big it is. As not doing these is a clear act of Marital immaturity. It is wrong for you as a woman to step into a man’s world or under his roof and continue living with him as a woman. Yes!. You are just a woman to him, Not a wife, inasmuch as the (yours & his) Parents were never dully decorated by been given whatever deemed appropriate. The man who does this is maritally immature. And, any woman who does this is likewise maritally immature.

Didn't you noticed Royal Wedding of May 19, 2018?. Perfect and full of life and style in the most grandeur way. How would you step into matrimony without involving all necessary witnesses?. The law of the land was never aware, your parents, relatives and extended families. The religious body you belonged to. There is need to fully or partially involved some or all of them. Just in case, the male or female partner belonging to such relationship turned out to be one who abused the other. The law or any and every appropriate quarter(s) would step in. Adam after he was enjoined in Holy matrimony to his wife; Eve. God still constantly stepped in to see how better they coped under their newly enjoined home.

Men or Women do not necessarily grow or matured by age or years. There are some men in their 40s, 50s who still behaved like little boys of twelve or nine years old. Like women who still do not see why they should drop their teenage attitudes. Despite the facts been mothers to grown-up children. When they could no longer cope under whatever duress portend by such matrimonies they cried like babies. And this do not physically present them as babies, but mentally the stress and agony of such matrimony weighs them down.

Marital Immaturity does not unthinkably set in or on any family. It's a gradual process and so it continued until it ramifies the entire family calculability. Why should you be content when your children chose to spend more time in the neighbour's apartment rather than the family's apartment?. What are they doing that made even the children born into the family preferred going there over staying in the family apartment?. 

It is immature and irresponsible for you to present your family too cheaply to your spouse. By so doing you’ve given him/her a viable abusive tool to use against you. It is equally immature to threaten each other with or by the law. But do not fail to apply or imply same when he or she uptrend his/her constant and repeated abuse. It is gross marital immaturity on you to die before death.

When the love is fresh and young (immature) Do not throw, flaunt or enmeshed yourself on, or around him/her without been fully sure of the needs to do so. Change is constant. Don’t as a result of your late entry in ‘marriage' lose your reasonability to questioning, investigate and analysed. Be sure he/she is genuinely meant for you. Question, inspect and demand evidence assurance from the spirit that made and lives in you. To be sure you are not aligning your entire being with the devil’s next of kin. It doesn’t show at first approach but there’s a teacher in you and is ready and willing to lead and guide you aright. And you can easily hear from the spirit that lives in you mostly; and especially if you’ve not already sexually aligned yourself with the person in question. Because it’s not easy to see yourself as others see you. Been sexually involved with the person whose what and wherever about you are wanting to questioned might just easily make him/her a part of yourself which might just not be easily seen or fathomed by yourself.

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

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Grace and peace be with all brethren all 
over the world for your support, Amen

Remember JESUS CHRIST 

was never sent to condemn 

but to save You.

John 3:17

Folorunsho Alayo

Marital Metamorphosis

It is no longer gainsaying that Butterfly and Moth undergo a complete metamorphosis (life cycle) in order to attained and achieved a perfect physique needed and useful for what and whom they ought to be. As this is why and what the maker intended them to be.

“And God saw every thing that He had made,

 and, behold, it was very good. And the evening

 and the morning were the sixth day.

” Genesis 1:31

Moth and Butterfly are closely related. But they are nonetheless the same species. The facts that both are insects still do not necessarily make them the same species. As a Butterfly cannot grow into a Moth neither a Moth into a Butterfly. But they both co-exist within the same ecosystem; and they are in one way or the other a resort of protection to one another in the sight of any prying, lurking predators.

Just like a new budding Matrimony; Butterflies and Moths are very beautiful sights to behold. As beautiful as the wedding gown; the soft silken and the netted fragile veil; the gloating unrelenting efforts of the visiting guests at a wedding matrimony to catch a glimpse of the veiled face. As well as the ‘here he comes’ un-reserved comments to the groom of the day.  Although, for secondary or pregnant Bride veil is inappropriate. The veil symbolizes intact and pedigree of an unbroken, untouched hymen. Which should be lifted, broken by the groom and only the groom alone.

Genesis 24:65

For she had said unto the servant, What man 

is this that walketh in the field to meet us? 

And the servant had said, It is my master: 

therefore she took a veil, 

and covered herself.

Butterflies and Moths are easily spotted but their eggs are not handy to come by. As it is small and intangible yet this is the basis, the beginning at which their final future size, life cycle and lifespan are determined. The creator intended them to go through different stages before finally becoming what He aimed at them to be. Why going through such stages?. Shouldn't the maker just make a Moth or Butterfly as they should out-rightly be?. Why Egg, Larva  (Caterpillar), pupa and then (adult) Butterfly or Moth?. As you will notice that the habit of each transformation at different stages are quite different. For example, Caterpillar is the feeding stage while the adult is the reproductive stage.    

This should signalled a change of attitudes to us as human as one single action or reaction is never befitting for every situations. Those attitudes you’ve decided to dropped or take along with you into that matrimony; decisively has a major influence on such Matrimony. But the more and the earlier you realized that some of those attitudes which you have gathered and garnished as your mainstay of modus operandi are no longer necessary. It is childish and totally unbecoming for spouse waiting for who should be the first to apologize over a trivial matter. The more such embers linger, the more the twig of discords get consumed. And you will spend more time maintaining such negativity than you would have spent on sharing the love.

Spouses should be submissive to one another. Appreciate one another’s strengths and weaknesses. As you can't possibly, forcefully get everyone to see things from your direction. Educational, Family background, Peer group, Hierarch, chronological, necessary and unnecessary qualifications should no longer be a bone of contention. In a Holy Solemnization Matrimony. There should be nothing like the haves nor the have-nots. They both get to be equally rich or poor, weak or strong, sick or healthy, fruitful or barren, everything is all about for the worse or for the better till death do them apart. And I pray that everything about your matrimony shall be positive according to your heart's desire in Jesus name.   

Amos 3:3(KJV)

Can two walk together, 

except they be agreed?

Ephesians 5:22-25 (KJV)

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your 

own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 

For the husband is the head of the wife,

 even as Christ is the head of the church:

 and he is the saviour of the body.

24 

as the church is subject unto Christ, 

so let the wives be to their own husbands 
in everything.

25 

Husbands, love your wives, 

even as Christ also loved the church, 

and gave himself for it;  

Marital metamorphosis; Is a perceived misconstrued physical, mental, instinctual and spiritual ungenerously approved; assessment or ill-conceived perception on; or of your marital affinity. An adage espoused to incompatible Spouse. What do you think is impracticable about your spouse?. Age difference should not be the barrier or yardstick through which marriage is measured, mentored or justified. Rather; marriage should be that institution whereby every participant contributes and uniquely has a voice that enables unity in order to attain and achieved an equilibrium collective goals.

But there should actually be nothing or something as ‘age-difference; exception in a sole situation whereby minor (underage) are involved. Marriage is not for kids. It is for the matured and no one else except for those who are true and genuinely matured for the journey of HOLY SOLEMNIZATION. Aside from that, Marriage should be undertaken and enjoyed by those that are willing, ready and believed in the makings of good, godly and successful homes. Why should you go into homes that are bound to be broken?. You are not broken. Are you?. Definitely, you are NOT. Because I know you are perfectly and wonderfully made. And you shall succeed in that Matrimony.

Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)

I will praise You, 
for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;

Marvelous are Your works, 
And that my soul knows very well.

Marital Metamorphosis; could or should be miraculous, psychological, doubtful or dumbfounding. Wherever the pendulum swings, always ensured you come out victoriously. As you might be one of the two major champions involved in this matrimony and, whatever perception the people around you had about your home (matrimony) such perception could only be given a Yes or No by either of you. Remember the Teacher would only grade what the Pupils submitted and the activities such as Teacher(s) observed about the Pupils.

Marriage should be an entity of equilibrium whereby the age-difference of the twain involved should not be the operating system through which the motherboard (family) functions. Presumption and assumption of this should bring quality repute not disrepute to everyone involved.  

We must at these juncture note and come to terms that it is not every man that has the abilities to maintain or retained a woman for a long lifetime. Neither is it every woman of marriageable age that has the capabilities to keep a man for the better or for the worse. Till death do them apart. And what is solely responsible for such inability is mainly ATTITUDES. Don't spiritualize such failure(s) until you are fully aware of your perfection which is rarely gotten.

Ecclesiastes 7:20

For there is not a just man upon earth,

 that doeth good, and sinneth not. 

“No man is handsome more 

than his behaviour; neither
 is there any woman 
who is more  than 

her attitudes”.

The moment you prepared your mindset toward not been compatible with your spouse in one way or the other, and you remained resolutely determined and transfixed under such mindset. That moment is the same moment such union started heading towards the rock. And the sage question is ‘Why should you already be into such relationship before making comparison?. Though; this is good and possible, if for the sake of improving on what you do not like about the relationship. But how many relationships would you likely backed out from?. If you do not get ready to adopt and adapt to some certain rules and pedigree that made a successful Matrimonial home?. The foundation of which is your key-attitudes. That attitudes you tenaciously hanged on; might just be that undoing the sanctity and sanity of that Godly Matrimony. The earlier your realized this; the better.

And that is a  proceeding, you must be patiently careful about and be sure that you’re not the one actually making the wrong moves here. Because your spouse might be one of those who was raised on the platter whose reason to appreciate little kind gestures were inept. And you were raised to appreciate every little kind, good and unsavoury gestures. Which implies that both of you are directly opposite each other. To make a successful home either of you must be willing to swing and switch at a point in time. As both remaining transfixed might spell such relationship as NON-FUNCTIONAL. 

AND DO NOT FORGET THAT THE HOME IS THE PHYSICAL FOUNDATION OF THE CHURCH.
AND; IN EXCEPTION TO THE SALVATION OF OUR SOULS, THERE IS NO ANY OTHER GOSPEL THAT IS GREATER THAN THE MARRIAGE"

"The mirror by your side cannot 

reflect your posture as that standing

or sitting opposite." 

These and many more areas are the paths were Marital Metamorphosis should be proportionally engendered. Most of us conclude too cheaply when going into spousal (marital) relativity. Without putting some certain consideration on Sociological, physiological, Psychological, analogical, gerontological, pathological, economical reason(s). Though love conquered all. Yes. No doubt about that, but you are human. Can you continue loving your spouse gainfully, woefully and wastefully?. Mostly when his/her genuine habits are revealed unexpectedly and such habits tend to be everything opposite your true definitions. How long do you think you can contend with this?. And if you couldn't. How positive or negatively do you intend to swing or switch?.

The credence of Life to this is that 

you can't instantly change everything 

about your Spouse. Some changes 

are gradual; while some are timed;

Some are immediately responsive

 while some are also immediately 

but not lasting for ever.  

Is your spouse that who only appreciate your input simply because he/she couldn’t contribute anything meaningful at the moment. And how does he/she react to that which had been previously meaningful now that he/she could do better than that?. How does he/she reacts when unthinkable challenges knocks and threatens to pull down on the matrimony?. Is he/she a truthful soulmate, or just a mere fleeing room mate?. How does he/she change or react to your demands?. Is he/she the type the other spouse would warn the kids to stay away from whenever utilities bills is presented?.

These and many more are the core rudiment, judicious and needed areas of Marital metamorphosis to be scrutinized. It is never an imposition rather an implosion. Yes!. Ensured you collapse those inward psychologically built barriers that could cost you the sanity of that home which you have toiled so seriously to maintain and sustained. Some of your habits might just be all and what is solely needed to work on. A faulty too is not totally useless; is it?. No!. Let's work on it before we conclude on its uselessness. Or what do you think; should we throw him/her out of the union simply on the basis of non-societal attitudes?. If our response is 'yes' It basically  means the love was not initially there from the inception.   

Your spouse doesn't like you raising your voice whenever there is a dispute or disagreement in the family. And that seems to be your psychological moment. You were never born with a raised voice. Were you? So you could possibly work on that. It might just be one of such attitudes you've garnished as you grow. Though, it might take lots of times and workings to adjust; but it is possible. And when your spouse complained about any of your habits and that same happened to be your best habit. This should be seen and taken as true love. As he/she wants to continue in the relationship but just doesn't like some certain aspects of the relationship; and has categorically speculated what he/she do not like. You both could better lived pass that. As shaving the hair is not cutting the head.   

Marital Metamorphosis wouldn’t encourage any spouse to looked down on the other. Its a positivism gospel that endorse you not to see things differently in a bid to continued playing the antagonizing roles in the matrimony. Even when your spouse is not your age mate. Is he/she your Soul mate, Sex mate or room mate?. Fine if he/she is; and better if he/she is not. If he/she is, how do you react when you are in any of those moods and he/she is not?. Do you jump at his/her neck because the other would not yielded to your bodily request?. No!. As that is the tenet and gospel of Marital Metamorphosis; that's how and why you should see why and when others do not want or need what you craved at the moment. Under such guise, I believed you can still persevered. Your spouse is a human not robotic silicons even robot failed. Don't they?.       

Immediately Adam set his eyes on Eve; He didn’t think about how consequential living with this new and rarely seen specie could be. The Bible stated that Adam instantly declared that ‘This is the bone of my bone and flesh from my flesh; so therefore she shall be called a woman. Wom?-an. The first syllable is actually questioning the presence of the woman while the second is affirming that she’s definitely not like any other animals in the garden except a resemblance of the man.

Genesis 2:23 (KJV)

And Adam said, 

This is now bone of my bones, 

and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, 

because she was taken out of Man.

 Adam had been in the garden of Eden before Eve was betrothed to him. They were living together and the deficit sides of each other's attitudes were never revealed until the devil came along. Eve never knew anything about the forbidden fruit (Just like you not initially knowing everything about your spouse) until Adam informed and warned her about it. (And some spouse never worried or bothered telling you until you found out when they least expected) Hence her curiosity to eat from the fruit increased. Then the Devil’s possibility to penetrate.

The man Adam was never scared of living on the other sides of his abilities. As he has hitherto not has ever lived with any humans except animals whose physiques and structures were different from  this newly seen Woman. But he adjusted by teaching and also learn from the Woman Eve.

"As no Teacher has ever completely 

taught without learning; The more 

they taught, the more they learn. 

Genesis 3:1-6 (KJV)

Now the serpent was more subtil than any
 beast of the field  which the Lord God had made. 

And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, 

Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?

2

And the woman said unto 
the serpent,  We may eat of the
 fruit of the trees of the garden:

3 

But of the fruit of the tree which is 
in the midst of the garden, God 
hath said, Ye shall not eat
 of it, neither shall ye
 touch it, lest ye die.

4 

And the serpent said unto 
the woman, Ye shall not 
surely die:

5 

For God doth know that in the 
day ye eat thereof, then your
 eyes shall be opened, and ye
 shall be as gods, knowing 
good and evil.

6 

And when the woman saw 
that the tree was good for food, 

and that it was pleasant to the eyes, 

and a tree to be desired to make one wise, 

she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat,

and gave also unto her husband with her; 

and he did eat.

Some spouse do not have the tendency to execute a project without informing the other. And that might just be the one out of the two whose charismatic is totally endemic to failure. While some do not know how to inform the other for proper counseling and guidance. What you see is just the good or bad results of such singly taken decisions and they are ready to imposed such on the other.

Are we now saying it is not possible to have a better perfect match of couples. No! Not exactly. It is possible. But whenever it is, you are the cause and whenever it is not possible you are equally the course.

YOU ATTITUDES

 CAN SAFE 

YOUR MATRIMONY!.

At times, the male spouse nature might be a Pigeon and the female spouse's a Parrot. The only feasibly features or comparison here is that they are both bird but they are certainly not the same type of birds. Which qualifies you and your spouse as being human but definitely you just might not be the same kind of humans. Taste, Feelings, Quests, Ideas, Curiosity. Inspiration and Aspiration of and, from both of you might just definitely not be the same. And if, eventually they are; are the timing also right and wrong when due as timely and equally engendered as expected. We are humans, there might just be some difference. And the gospel of Marital Metamorphosis is all about bridging such differences. Drop. Adopt. Adapt. Imbibe. And continue living in harmony.

As the voice ranting from the quarter of a deaf and dumb man might definitely not be his. And the facts that the couples are deaf and dumb do not necessarily make their Children deaf and dumb. Does it?. Even if you were raised from the house of violence; you can still drop that violence. As a beautiful building is not as golden and expensive as a beautiful home.     

God did not need withdrawing anything from the man (Adam) to make a woman but He intentionally took a bone from the man not to actually make a woman but to make a foreseeable side and sight that fits and corresponds with the man. Or else the man Adam wouldn’t had recognized Eve as his bone of bones and flesh from his flesh. He would’ve consented to seeing her as another creature meant to be named by Him. Of course; there were angels in the likes and physique structures of Adam whom he had seen before Eve was given to him. Because before then, Adam's being was still fully spiritual.

The remote (bone) which was taken out of the man was included in the making of the woman and they both could see a reason why they should respond to each other’s bids. Just like a Television to its remote control. God was fully aware that without the removal of his (Adam's) bone; He would never see Eve as his. Now marital metamorphosis; is all about you as one of the leading champions of a matrimony that must succeed. The devil won’t always appear in the physical whereby Eve and the first man was deceived, but watch out for his cunning tricks as it might come through those unsuspecting attitudes of yours that are just not too befitting for a sustainable matrimony.

Your spouse doesn't like dining at a particular restaurant which turned out to be your favourite. Why shouldn't either of you switch taste, to make a loved and peaceful home?. This is easy and possible except where and when the unthinkable ego is rived, present and deposited within such home.

Ephesians 4:17-23(KJV)

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord,

 that ye henceforth walk not as other 
Gentiles walk, in the vanity of 
their mind,

18 

Having the understanding darkened, 

being alienated from the life of God
 through the ignorance that is in them, 

because of the blindness 
of their heart:

19

 Who being past feeling have given 
themselves over unto lasciviousness,

 to work all uncleanness 
with greediness.

20 

But ye have not so learned Christ;

21 

If so be that ye have heard him, 

and have been taught by him, 
as the truth is in Jesus:

22 

That ye put off concerning the former 
conversation the old man, which is
 corrupt according to the
 deceitful lusts;

23 

And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;

Adam was never scared of living at the opposite of his God-giving abilities. Because he remembered vividly that God the creator has informed and duly appraised his enable-ness to subdue the earth. Ever since he has been given the instruction not to eat from the forbidden; he obeyed and abide until the woman comes along. Though that is never an excuse for the man Adam. Neither is it a soft landing for him. But this was to portray the direction whereby couple(s) are meant to abide. And the creator (God Almighty) never spared that who gives the excuses of been deceived or pushed by the other. They were both equally treated the same. Whenever one sin, all have equally sin. Same sin, Same penalty, Same forgiveness, Same grace, same salvation.

(Genesis 1:28) 

New Living Translation

Then God blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and

 multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish

 in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals 

that scurry along the ground.”

Sometimes the Husband might be a pigeon in nature and the wife parrot in nature. The truth here is that both are definitely not from the same background but they belonged to the same class. Both could definitely co-exist as a pet but to enjoin each other as spouse might just be another hilarious impossible epic animation story from Walt Disney. But it is possible.

Matthew 19:26 (NKJV)

26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them,

 “With men this is impossible, but with God 
all things are possible.”

God has given you the Power. You can save your relationship You can save your home Why should you let that who belong to you be thrown to the dog?.

 You were never forced on each other. What happened?. Halfway into your marital journey?. Are that loads of heavy items of luggage of unwanted attitudes?. You need to drop them. Anger; Jealousy; Malice; and all sorts of debilitating attitudes. Why are you so scared about going in the opposite direction? If your spouse attitudes seem not to be towards the direction which you maintained. Why don’t you try switching yours to the other direction? As certain things are better functional in opposite direction to each other. Even Electricity circuits in your home or offices have a functional capacity or tendency of negative and positive which is in opposite comportment to one another. As that might just convince him/her to equally see things from your direction.

Everything you need to be what and whom you ought to be in life is never fully deposited on your path alone. Some are deposited directly opposite you. That is why according to creation Man remained the opposite of woman from creation up to date. While literary speaking Boy is the opposite of Man. And marriage is never for kids. If a man could successfully drop his been boyish attitudes; he could as well drop and develop necessary ability to live and make a successful matrimony. Don't worry. Come along. Cross to the other sides of your relationship. Just to please your spouse. The relationship is meant to please one another. 

The thief at the left hand of the cross was scared to cross to the centre but that on the right was quick to cross. He was never scared. Though He was everything in contrary to Jesus sermon. But He remembered just one thing He might have heard The Almighty Saviour preached about which is 'repentance'. Despite the facts that the death, hell and devil in him wouldn't easily permit him. Because He belongs to the world and the Devil. He might even be one of those robbers that robbed the good Samaritan our Dear Saviour preached about. (Luke 10:30-37)

But he abandoned the old habit that would have denied him a free easy entrance into paradise and you know what?. He reigned with our Lord Jesus Christ. Because all his old iniquities were totally forgiven. You can do same to that matrimony and may you remain bless as you do so (Amen). 

If Goliath is a giant in nature his wife could possibly be. But why must a mammoth as big as an Elephant be destroyed by a scorpion venom?. That’s an epitome of those attitudes that are totally unnecessary to maintain or sustained a happily forever Matrimonial union. David is minute to Goliath yet he destroyed him and his hosts. The difference here is 'attitudes' because faith cometh through attitudes. David's attitudes and heartfelt is of God. Hence the possibility to push and pulled down a mammoth as gigantic as Goliath. David was so characteristically fortified, after defeating Goliath He used his attitudes (sword) to dismembered him. In case you do not know. Whatsoever attitudes you displayed in that matrimony is a sword (psychological weapon) sharpen enough either to protect, save, annihilate or completely destroy the matrimony.

David was such a young ruddy shepherd boy so, so insignificant to Goliath. Just the way you looked down on those attitudes of yours that are seen and perceived as non-important about you. But David didn't actually kill Goliath with the stones he picked. He killed and destroyed Goliath by his attitudes; the sword. All Goliath hope and strength were channelled and deposited on those weapons which were eventually used to destroy him. Ego is headstrong about his downfall. If your spouse complained and doesn't like an attitude about you. Just drop it. You were never born with such as all behaviours were learned. Claiming not been able to drop a habit is tantamount to Goliath's ego which is nothing but disunion and destruction.

1 Samuel 17:51 (KJV)

51 Therefore David ran, and stood upon the Philistine, 

and took his sword, and drew it out of the sheath thereof, 

and slew him, and cut off his head therewith. 

And when the Philistines saw their 

champion was dead, they fled.

  Another credence of life to this which is most evident is that 'No Matrimony has ever been unified neither is there any destroyed without the direct or indirect consent of one or the two major members involved" 

You and your spouse might have a totally different background upbringing. You might be raised from within the affluence of a royal diadem family. While your spouse might be that who was raised and nurtured by every hashtag of the street and ghetto. But love, at first sight, might have temporary subdue him/her. So, how long do you think such pretext could be continued?. Love can actually cover that forever only if you allowed such to reign. You can kill that Goliath threatening to break that union which is your attitudes. Or continue living with such goliaths which portend and threatens to break the union of that good, sweet and Godly unified Holy Solemnization Matrimony. 

His/her true natures will definitely resurface. It is just a matter of time. But marital metamorphosis still maintained that you can tame it. When your spouse defended you against that unsuspected attackers on the street. You were glad the way he/she threw punches and jabs at the attackers. But during all these while and afterwards, you never take time to question your curiosity as ‘who will receive such punches and jabs in the absence of attackers, at the presence of unperturbed waves of anger?. But you can pacify such anger with a positive attitude and you can as well aggravate such with the same attitudes that are negative. You could as well tamed such not to ever occurred at all. All these and many more are possible as recipes of attitudes whereby you or your spouse are recipients. And in cases whereby your attitudes to maintain, control, pacify or petrified absolutely failed. Dear brethren; why and how did you get there?. 

Blaming you for this?. No, not at all. Just recalling your mindset to the facts that you were warned by the spirit in you; but the bubbling going on, in and around you at the time forbade you from seeing the light hence your reason(s) for been trapped in this matrimony that cannot be corrected or rescued by marital metamorphosis; which is the gospel been preached by many and every Apostles who has ever lived before us. It is definitely not everybody out there that is meant for you. So your quests or rushed to get hooked or knotted should not be a haste to been force-pulled on 'just anyone'.

You are somebody, not just anyone. You are unique and special even with or without physical or mental disabilities. You are still intact and perfectly made. Do not surrender to quietism while on the quests to Marital blissfulness as these should be a resort to your completeness, not regret.       

“What kind of a man are you?”

Princess Fiona yielded at the top of her voice by asking her rescuer(s) which is an Ogre in the name of Shrek and his ‘stupid, ugly, talking annoying donkey.” And these quality were all according to Shrek view of his donkey, a sudden forcefully acquaintance. Shrek simply responded to the princess’ question by saying “ One of the kind”.

Your spouse might have been perceived or misconstrue as ‘one of the kind’ as largest percentage of spouse(s) all over the world has been able to master the crafts and techniques (deceit) on how  to shield some of their unwarranted attitudes and these only resurfaced under the guise of unexpected or unsuspected happenings. So whenever your instinct, the spirits that live and drives everything in your physical been doubt and questioned your reason on why you should or should not go into that matrimony take time, again and again, to check whether there is something hidden about the union-to-be which you are yet to fathom.

Serena Williams dropped her long maintained refusal to switch to the other side, just recently on November 16, 2017. As she tied the knot with her love at first sight Ohanian in New Orleans. Despite the fact that her father could not make it to the Wedding ceremony to work her down the aisle. She could bear that as well as she carried on as if it was never a big deal. What a Marital Metamorphosis? Physically they are not the same. Their background or professions is equally never the same. But they have been able to see what and how powerful love could be endeared and engendered one to persevere. This is the tenet and gospel of Marital Metamorphosis. As all raised shoulders were dropped for love and peace and union and holy matrimony to thrive. Hallelujah!  

Do you still resent within that Matrimony because you are an attention seeker and your spouse couldn't give all when needed and necessary?. You can cope if so determined. Instead of you considering to break away from that union; why don't you work and improved on your attitudes. Drop some of your attitudes and adopt some. But be so sure that what you are dropping is those perceived and observed as non-useful. As artificial and unnecessary ego could be one of such. Then your newly adopted ones should be Christ-like as no home could stand the test and trial of times without the continued backing of our LORD JESUS CHRIST. The foundation of every home.

I have buried my head and mind in researches and my spirit under the flows of the anointing of the HOLY GHOST in order to write this to you. So that you remained ever faithful and productive in that home. As I have gone through so many homes in the course of my upbringing. And observed that the main course(s) i.e. roots of broken homes is attitudes. Characters that should have been thrown outside on the dumpsite before making such an august entrance into the matrimony were known or unknowingly the instinctual sledgehammer that laid bare the foundation of such union. 

I have equally seen and experienced any and every malady a broken home could bestow upon anybody. If you let that godly home goes broken. Have you ever for once thought about hereabout, whereabouts and welfare of Child(ren) gotten by such union?. That is one of the major why any Solemn Matrimony is never in anyway a trivial matter. It's never a matter to be taken for granted.

Both God the Father ordained it. As God the Father Himself supported it by joining Adam to Eve an instant and ready-made atonement for the removal of the bodily and physical sins they've subjected themselves to. And God the Son in the resemblance of human also attended same at the Wedding in Cana where He performed His first miracle. Also God the Holy Spirit also attended and still remained in attendance mostly when such Matrimony is a(n) HOLY SOLEMNIZATION MATRIMONY.   

1 Corinthians 10:4

and all of them drank the same spiritual water. 

For they drank from the spiritual rock that traveled
 with them, and that rock was Christ.

Rejoice in the Lord always; 

and again I say, 

Rejoice. Philippians 4:4 

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John 3:17

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